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Self Fulfillment, Part IV

“Forgive and forget” what a novel concept. “Compromise” doesn’t seem to be in my dictionary.

It’s ironic. 4 hours ago, I had thought there was a chance this could still work. I guess I was thinking in my head that guilds could be like sports teams, you could be a fan of one but still be able to get along with a fan of a rival. I guess it doesn’t work that way. I had thought that even though we didn’t share a commonality (i.e. WoW guilds/servers), we could still make it work through other means. As she so aptly brought up in her comment, yes we did share several sessions on Skype just talking about whatever. We did have common interests through other venues. But it would seem the thing that I so thick headed focused on would be exactly what she’d use to chop.

“Well good luck with life, hope it’s a good one.” I don’t care how you read that, it still holds the same bearing. Perhaps I’m not strong enough to say what needs to be said. Perhaps I’m the weak one. I suppose it comes down to some basic questions:

1. Do I want to raid with her? You know I really don’t know how to answer that. I’m never really too sure about a player’s ability.. I tend to adapt by what others say and when grouping with them what they are capable of doing. I don’t form opinions about their ability cause it’s all subjective. I could form relativistic connections, like this player is good at managing so and so. Therefore I can’t really say if I’d want to raid with them based on that. Would I want to raid with someone who I have an emotional attachment to? I guess I’m not too sure about that either. Guess I’d rather keep my WoW connections more anonymous. Keep them compartmentalized. Cause I don’t know if I ever will need to break them. I try not to piss people off. I hear that I’m a nice guy. Decent player. Do I believe that? I don’t go out of my way to do nice things, I just keep a calm and generally collected demeanor and try to be polite. Going beyond that..? I just don’t know. I kind of end up in an odd situation.. I don’t know how to handle those sorts of emotions.

2. Did I make myself clear? The first time, no. The second time, apparently no. I suppose you could say the first time was a mistake on my part. I took her view of the guild and further deepened it. MO has a bad reputation because of the loud mouths in it. But MO has good people in it. People who, given the right circumstances, are nice and polite. But that’s not the portrait others paint. No, they bring up the trolling done by a few of the members (who for the life of me I don’t understand why are still in the guild, as they don’t raid with us) or the issues that some of the members cause (like loot issues on pick-up group raids). Some of the people are really good people. People who are being unfairly biased against. So with the initial opinion she had of MO, I took it further down by focusing on some of the negative thing these people do. Not really a wise move on my part, I admit. The second time, I guess I wasn’t fully clear on my intentions. I love(d) this girl and decided I’d like to be with her and that by staying in MO I was being full of myself. So I figured if she was going to transfer, I’d transfer with her. But my clarity on saying I’d do that apparently wasn’t clear enough. Apparently I’m vague and take back roads to say things. I’m currently ignoring her to type this. Cause I think she won’t listen to anything I have to say anyway. She’s already made her mind up.

3. Was the fate of this all really based on my decision about a hypothetical? I don’t get it. I, as a guy, operate on logic. Which apparently doesn’t work when the other person is a girl. So I’m supposed to rely on some emotional core which I don’t really know if I have. I, basically an organic computer in my eyes, am supposed to rely on something I have no control over, no understanding of, and no possible concept of. I’d like to have a rational conversation with a female, but doesn’t seem to happen. I tend to read into things. She tends to read into things. But she can’t read into my basic “Hey let’s raid together” messages after I basically admit that I’m a thick headed jerk who is staying with MO to pad my ego? Guess it only works when she’s mad. And she’s probably mad now.

4. Where do I go from here? I don’t really know. If it’s over, and I’m assuming it is just based on that tone, I don’t think I’ll ever really love again. I’ll use rationality to attempt to tone down the pain I’m sure will come and come out even more broken than I am now. If it’s not over, she’ll get mad at me for thinking it is. Either way I think I lose. I don’t really think you can win at relationships. I think there’s only one door. Friend of mine told me that his girlfriend has forgiven him countless times–too many to count. Does that imply true love? I suppose I should ask what level of forgiveness those actions required. Did you basically in a roundabout way tell her you don’t want to play a game with her? What level of emotional impact does that carry? I guess it’s partially my fault cause I was running out of ideas to talk about.. so I brought up an unfinished argument. Poor move on my part. Any would be lovers out there, take some heed: don’t do anything that pops in your head. It’s wrong. Or at least I’d like to think it’s wrong. But I am a man of logic, and logic is god.

I suppose on the positive note, I have been updating this more often. Course the subject of it is up for debate.

If she doesn’t forgive me and it truly is over, then I’ll be looking for someone to kick me in the ass so I can keep up on my course work in this upcoming jaunt into school. If she does forgive me, perhaps I’m not as bad of a person as I think I currently am.

Only the internet can tell..